When meeting new people... we all know that we judge by first impressions. This is a very hard and unfair rule. However, life experience has taught me everyone puts on their faces when first meeting. Its not until we are around someone several times that we see ones true personality. Not until they become comfortable around you ~ do you see them.
This is one craft that is draining to me, when meeting new people. Due to life experiences my guard is always up and I'm always ready for a sucker punch. Ummm yes, the Sucker punch...meaning that moment when you figure out ones true angle... what do they want from me? use me for their personal gain? Paranoia you say? I think not! Although I do think that my guards come down fairly quickly because having guards up is extremely exhausting and my arms get too damn tired.. and I just don't have the energy to play that role... you know the role... the Life is a stage role... or maybe we can call it a player in the game of life... My question is why play games? At this point in my life... I've learned so much about myself. first being when meeting someone.. the best thing for me to do is just listen and observe..try to figure out ones strategy and then hit them with all of me...
I know I'm blabbering right now... and this is not correct/formal writing... but it makes sense to me... so possibly it makes sense to someone else....
my little rant is over....carry on
It makes perfect sense to me Jackie, I agree with you.
ReplyDeleteHi Jackie,
ReplyDeleteYou are absolutely right. Life experiences can cause one to always have their guard up and expect the negative from people way b4 it happens or if it happens at all. However, the not so good thing about a guard is it keeps everything out. So while we are blocking out the bad, we are also pushing away the good. You said it best when you said this..."the best thing for me to do is just listen and observe...try to figure out ones strategy and then hit them with all of me". Many people dont do that and that's y they always get hurt. Time always reveals ones true character and most of the time we ignore it.
Myself, I allowed the hurt that one person caused me many years ago to put up a quard that blocked everybody out. I loved people and was always around people. i didnt become a hermit but i didnt give nobody a chance to befriend me or to love me. And it wasn't until someone came to me (who is now my bestfriend) and showed me the harm i was causing myself and how i was living an unbalanced life. Giving but not allowing myself to receive.
More people need to read your blog. Excellent Post Jackie. Keep them coming.
Thank you Bobbie!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Tanya! We are both on the same page ;)
Great post Jackie
ReplyDeleteI have found in life we must take chances.
Hope for the best from our fellow human beings.
Most times they will disappoint us. Trick is never to disappoint
ourselves. Be true to who you are. Be the kind and gentle heart that
you are. keeping in mind that most people
have gone through rough patches on their own
lives. Their guard is up as well. They expect the
worse. I find that it simply takes time. I have a tough
time putting up my guard. I come as I am. I hope I'm
liked or at the very least not disliked. If I am myself
If I accepted wonderful. If not well I gave it my best.
I move on and forward. Their loss.
Thanks again for a thought provoking post.
Love you Joubert! And thank you
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